Mommy's back and everything is on a roll!

Okay, Mommy came back last night and Francine-Rose was with us again and was thrilled to be reunited with her mum.

This morning she wanted mum to sit and build blocks with her, but Mommy had other plans and naturally, she wanted Francine-Rose to accompany her.  They were great plans - going to the beach, whale watching, going to town - but Francine did not want to go.  She did not even want to get DRESSED to go.  So it was not only The Sneves she did not want to go with - and now I realise what's up.  Francine has had tooooooo many changes in her short life and she just wants some "time-out" - a stable place - no creches, no change in homes and flats, no spending days here and there - she just wants to be.

Some would call it a separation complex.  It's a natural stage she is going through.  So again, I had to let her be and just STAY OUT of it.

I don't know about this business of having a grandchild in the same town.  It's somewhat easier when you visit them or they visit you for a few weeks and then you part.  They have their place and you have yours.  

I was going to issue a warning to other grandparents "Don't whatever you do get too attached to the child of your single-parent son/daughter".  But that would not be love.  Love is risking hurt.  And rejection and all sorts of things - so just love, love, love.  You may get burned in the process - that's life and that's love!!!

And in exactly the same way as you love their parents - you have to love not being suffocating and clingy - but by letting go.